What then are the right methods?

There are essentially five methods to happiness, the three “No’s” and two “Should’s.”

The Three “No’s”:

First, do not compare. The more we like to compare with others, the less likely we are to find happiness. Take as an example a person who owns a high-performance luxury car; if he likes to compare, he is sure to find someone in his circle of friends who has a better car. As in the saying “there is always a better man, a higher mountain,” even if the person excels in everything now, there is no guarantee he won’t be surpassed in a year or two. If he chooses to compete again at that time, he will find himself in a very tiresome chase. To compare is not necessary in life, but it is often the cause of great suffering.

~ Depicted from THE PAPER TIGER - The Tibetan Buddhist View on Happiness

Supramundane phenomena are encompassed in both Mahayana and Hinayana traditions. Unbeknown to many, even practicing Hinayana requires renunciation as a prerequisite. When virtuous actions are being executed out of genuine renunciation, they are deemed supramundane phenomena.

~ Depicted from Luminous Wisdom Book Series 1

Unwholesome motivation

Nowadays, some Buddhists’ motivations for conducting virtuous activities and taking up practice fall into this category. It is because they are only concerned with attaining happiness and comfort in this life, such as having good health, long life and wealth, or being able to avoid obstacles and suffering. If spiritual practice were to be undertaken only to achieve these aims, no matter how profound the practice itself might be, it would be deemed mundane. It is possible that practicing this way may bring worldly benefits, but no other good karma will ensue.

~ Depicted from THE RIGHT VIEW - The Three Supreme Methods—the ultimate methods of cultivating virtue and training the mind

For example, when there is a new electronic product on the market, one may either feel upset if one can’t afford to buy or conceited if others can’t buy the same, thinking “only I have this bag, this luxury watch, the latest version of…; no one else in the office does.” This mindset breeds arrogance so that one is blind to others’ strengths and one’s own weaknesses.

~ Depicted from "THE HANDBOOK FOR LIFE"S JOURNEY : On The Three Poisons - How to Handle Desire"

I think this conclusion is overly pessimistic because it is based on incorrect methods. If our methods are correct, we can find happiness in this life. The question is how we look for them. If the methods are incorrect, we may not be able to attain happiness however hard we try.

~ Depicted from THE PAPER TIGER - The Tibetan Buddhist View on Happiness

If you want to attain liberation, it would be better not to be anxious to practice Dzogchen or Kalachakra, and so on, because there would be no use in practicing these Dharmas before the foundation is laid. The Buddha once said, “People who want to attain liberation or practice Mahayana Buddhism do not need to study and practice many Dharmas. Only one practice needs to be done—that is great compassion.” The Buddha does not mean that great compassion alone can solve all the problems; and simply possessing great compassion without practicing other Dharmas, it won’t work, either.

~ Depicted from Luminous Wisdom Book Series  9

For example, if people practice the Great Perfection to eliminate physical pain or evil influence, this practice would become a mundane phenomenon. The practice itself is not mundane, but it is motivated by worldly pursuits that turn it into something mundane in the end. For this reason, motivations of this kind are considered unwholesome.

~ Depicted from THE RIGHT VIEW - The Three Supreme Methods—the ultimate methods of cultivating virtue and training the mind

For example, avoid exposure to various advertisements or setting sight on the neighbor’s new car or new gadgets. This can help reduce the arising of desire and avoid certain suffering that comes with excessive desire. It is therefore advised by the Buddha that the monastics or real practitioners stay at remote and quiet places to do their practice, as there are fewer material goods there to stir up one’s desire and cause defilement to manifest. But this is not the best way.

~ Depicted from "THE HANDBOOK FOR LIFE"S JOURNEY : On The Three Poisons - How to Handle Desire"

Darrin M. McMahon, an American professor, spent six years researching the history and livelihood of mankind, and completed a book titled Happiness: A History. He concludes at the end of the book that happiness may only exist in our imagination: we can pursue happiness, but it only lives in our imagination; we can think of happiness as an ideal to follow, but it may never be attained.

~ Depicted from THE PAPER TIGER - The Tibetan Buddhist View on Happiness